From Pandamoon’s blog again.
At long last, the time is here for the release of my first published novel: Knights of the Shield. I hope everyone likes it at least as much as I enjoyed writing it. In the future, look for more paranormal things in future releases as well as fantasy and a new series I’m hashing out of my head right now.
Thank you to all those that have read it and reviewed it. Thank you to all those that will read it and review it. Thanks to those who’ve supported me in this journey and thanks to those that didn’t, as it forced me to stand up and go around (or through) them to achieve MY dream.
Thanks to my kids and their UNDYING support. I love you guys more than I could ever describe in a book and I hope I show it enough as you guys deserve it.
So, GO! Find it on Amazon for Kindle, as well as the paperback version. Sit, read and enjoy!
I think we need to consider a name change for this day. The old adage (not that old I think) is any man can be a father, it takes someone special to be a Dad. Fathers bring children into the world, Dads raise them. Fathers provide for their children, Dads are more involved. Dads are connected to their kids in a way that cannot be understood completely, unless you are a Dad.
A wise friend of mine had this to say:
There is no place higher than on Dad’s shoulders. Dad – a son’s first hero, a daughter’s first love. A Dad is someone you never outgrow your need for.
A Dad is someone to look up to no matter how tall you’ve grown. A Dad is your biggest fan, even when you strike out. Dad, your guiding hand on my shoulder will remain with me forever. A Dad is neither an anchor to hold us back, nor a sail to take us there, but a guiding light whose love shows us the way.
A Dad is someone who encourages you, protects you, picks you up when you’re down, gives you advice, guides you when you’re lost, but most of all… always loves you unconditionally !
A Dad is always a Superhero in everyone’s life. Nobody can take place of Dad.
I will add to this bit. A Dad is the guy who picks you up, dusts you off, then throws you back into the fray. Dad is the fire that tempers a man’s soul. A Dad’s wisdom is the steel that anchors a man’s heart.
Happy Father’s Day to all you … Wait a sec…
HAPPY DAD’S DAY!!!!
I love you Dad.
Problem with studies like this is social pressures weigh in. If a study to determine if a “hands-on” father can be successful is launched, everyone waits for the first failure and everything is a wash after that. This parenting study has a few gems of illogic in it too.
There were also physical issues, with some couples finding that their baby responded better to being comforted by his or her mother. As one fathers put it: “Only mummy that will do.”
Utter crap. A baby responds better to the comforting they receive that best suits the problem they are experiencing. Yes, sometimes baby wants their mommy, but just as often, baby wants daddy too. Granted, the article didn’t say “always” but the stereotypical view is that mothers are better nurturers. I vehemently disagree.
The one statement made I completely agree with was:
The reality is that as a society I don’t think we are ready for that – we don’t support the fathers in doing that, we pay lip service to it but we haven’t put in pace systems which are fit for purpose.
Society itself creates a huge hurdle across all facets of modern life. The problem we encounter as parents raising our kids are largely of our own making, as a society. Men can nurture, women can teach sportsmanship. Just because society says we can’t, doesn’t mean its true, and more often needs to be proven incorrect by an overabundance of data.
Frankly, I feel sorry for the kid, losing one’s mother will never be easy. However, I have some questions. Where’s Dad? The article says Dad was never really in the child’s life, but that begs the question. Why?
Did Dad do what society thinks (incorrectly) that fathers do and disappeared? Did mom sue for divorce and legally remove Dad from junior’s life? There are many questions here and no answers because the journalist decided to go the route of the touching story of the nurse that was asked to look after junior. That a family would offer to raise a child not their own is amazing and worthy of praise. However, the legal portion of this story didn’t get told.
Mom has NO RIGHT to just give up her child to a legal stranger. Dad should be contacted immediately and the child should be placed in his care unless he decides at that point to allow the nurse’s family to legally adopt.
This country’s family law system his too heavily weighted towards mothers and almost completely overlooks the value of an active involved Dad in a child’s life. That’s not FATHER, any man can be a father. Am active, involved DAD in a child’s life is every bit as important as an active involved Mom. Divorce court is supposed to be in the best interests of the child and removing Dad from the picture and turning him into a walking ATM for Mom to live off of is criminal.
States like Texas and Florida are getting closer to getting it right though, where 50/50 custody is becoming more and more, the norm. These kids who have equal access to both Dad and Mom are getting the best possible outcome of the tragedy of divorce. I’m hoping that soon, other states will follow where Texas and Florida are leading, where families that suffer the pain of divorce can still do the best they can for the children by allowing them to be with both their parents.
There will always be Dads that don’t pay their child support, but also there are a lot of Moms that don’t pay there court ordered child support either. We as a country need to remove the stigma of “deadbeat dad” from the landscape and add the equality that feminism wants so badly. Women are equal to men, which conversely means that men are equal to women. Therefore, Dads are equal to Moms in importance to a child’s raising.
Yes, I am an advocate for Father’s rights. I have four children and they are my world. Their mother and I are divorced, but have the kids 50/50 and co-parent well.